The issue of loneliness came up in a recent thread by another member, so I wanted to address that topic briefly here. To some extent I think the issue of loneliness is not given the attention it deserves, as it seems to impact the decisions people make in relationships to a great extent. Then the questions becomes more obvious, that being, is staying married and miserable the right solution to avoid loneliness.
Thinking back to both of my divorces, even though I didn't realize it at the time, the potential of being lonely was affecting my decisions. At the time I merely recognized it as a desire to be with someone, possibly even staying married, but never thought of it as affecting the decisions that I made. I also never recognized it as something potentially harmful to me, something that was causing me to make irrational and wrong decisions. Looking back I realize it was harmful, and pointing me in the wrong direction.
I think people facing divorce can mostly mitigate the potential harmful effect of loneliness if they merely recognize it and take note of how it's impacting them in their decisions. Moving forward after that, to answer the question regarding solutions, you need to find an actual solution to the loneliness. I think fundamentally the solution for loneliness is not to be amongst company, but to find a way to be alone and not lonely. It's like a temporary fix, or merely a bandage, for a problem that needs working on. That does not mean you are resigning yourself to being alone, but that you are strengthening yourself so that you can be alone. At the same time, you free yourself from it's influence over you so you can objectively and logically make decisions about what is best for you.
That's a very short synopsis of what came to mind when the member here brought up the topic, so I hope that helps. If you have any further thoughts or questions please let me know and I'm happy to help however I can.
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